Fifty-Two Free Fun Facts From A Marriage Counselor Doing marriage therapy is a high-stakes endeavor, with lots of potential to change people’s lives. If divorce occurs, kids can have their childhoods turned upside down, the financial ramifications are huge, and multiple generations are impacted forever. I have treated thousands of couples, and, when a marriage… Read More


Why Play Therapy is Really, Really Stupid Play therapists believe the way to help a child is through accessing their “inner world” via play.  They get on the floor and play board games with the children, play in sandboxes and dollhouses, have the kids do drawings and make other forms of art work, and engage… Read More


Why Taking Xanax for Anxiety Is Really, Really Stupid Anxiety feels awful. Every year hundreds of thousands of emergency room visits occur because people go from feeling anxious to feeling really, really anxious to having a panic attack. They then end up in the ER convinced they are having a heart attack. Anxiety is fear. We… Read More


Taking the Time Out to be a Couple The Sandwich Generation is defined as the generation caught between raising children and taking care of their elderly parents. Yesterday, I was the son of an 87 year old mother in a nursing home and the parent of an eight year old girl and a ten year… Read More


My little girl’s third grade class was doing a Living Museum, and this one wasn’t boring like a museum for grown-ups…. So, the third grade had a “Living Museum” presentation, which means the cute little eight year olds were dressed up as famous people, like Einstein, Lincoln and there were even two dueling Harriet Tubmans! Each… Read More


So my ten year old son and I were sharing a “male” day: his basketball game, watching NFL playoffs, eating chicken wings and then going to Krispy Kreme. The testosterones were flying all over, I was being a manly man, he was being a manly boy, and there we no wives, sisters or Grandmas to… Read More


Surrender is a very important word. Not to force things. Perfect example: During the tsunami, when I was drowning and I was under a layer of debris, and I started to swallow the black water, and I couldn’t breathe, I said, “Okay. If I have to go, I have to go.” And I let go.… Read More