Enabling Versus Caring

Enabling Versus Caring

Enabling

 

Caring

I protect   I share
I control   I confront
I carry their feelings   I am sensitive
I don’t listen   I listen
I rescue       I don’t rescue
I fix     I let consequences naturally occur
I feel… tired
  anxious
  fearful
  over-responsible
I feel… relaxed
  free
  aware
  highly-esteemed

I can’t trust

 

I can trust

I fear for the future   I live in the moment
I am responsible for other’s actions   I am responsible for myself
I expect the person to live up to my expectations   I have resigned from the "results business"
I try to control almost everything   I no longer try to have the exact outcome that the world requires
I am bound   Lord Almighty, I am free at last